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To be honest I can't take posts like that seriously either. There's a weird online tendency to self-infantalize and blow problems out of proportion, and frankly imo it detracts from real problems we face.
Like what discussion actually needs to be had about "the stress of choosing a halloween costume"?
the op is kinda silly, but i am strongly suspicious of anyone who complains about people that supposedly "blame everything on their diagnosis". more often than not it's just a neurotypical that hates us and thinks adhd is an excuse for laziness, which i believe is 100% the case for the rt. adhders who don't take responsibility for their problems do exist, but i'd rather err to the side of not harming us any more than the neurotypicals already do
and it's super weird to me that someone would be motivated by someone who thinks your diagnosis is fake
Yea at that point it's definitely learned helplessness or having so strongly identified with your disability that you've completely stopped trying
Nobody talks about the stressors of picking a Halloween costume probably because it's completely optional, self inflicted, and of such low importance. Of all the issues that ADHD would give somebody why would anybody complain about this particular issue
Ah that's a good phrase! I really don't want to be 'bootstrappy' but there is a sensible line surely?
Learned helplessness is an actual concept in clinical psychology
Huh the more you know!
I really don't think the tweet was meant to be taken seriously
Same, I think they were just introducing something they wanted to discuss but in that hyperbolic irony poisoned twitter fashion.
yeah the phrase "we don't talk enough about" is often used in an intentionally hyperbolic or sarcastic way. probably this person was just stressing out about finding a costume at the last minute and made a lighthearted remark blaming their lack of foresight on their ADHD. I'd give it a 0.1% chance that they were actually suggesting there should be a serious discussion about this topic
Reminds me of the classic Joyce Carol Oates tweet about how skeleton decorations on halloween are actually inconsiderate to grieving people