I'm looking for a distro recommendation for development needs.

I have a 16gb ram pc and using docker and k3s to run my code, and multiple intellijs on a linux vmware vm (my host is windows) which eats a lot of ram. I tried ubuntu, Debian and xubuntu.

Most of them didn't handle my ram consumptions, xubuntu is good but I'd like to know if there's a better one for my needs.