lose control of the information

Honestly that is an amazing way of putting it. And I think that pretty accurately describes how I feel about the big 'coming out' event. I would like people to know for the sake of my own freedom but also, I kinda like having my own secret world where I don't have to explain or justify anything to anyone.

It's also why whenever this question has come up in the past, I'll usually say that I want to move somewhere new first before making it any more obvious that I'm not just a non-conformist. So that anyone who knows the truth has only ever known the real me without the mask, and I don't have to explain myself to family or people I've barely spoken to in a decade.