i totally get that! we can't all be perfect all the time, and i totally get that for some people they've just been hurt too much to ever have a shred of kindness or sympathy towards the people who are at least partially responsible for that pain
i just wish that people could be a bit less hateful, at least. reading the comments in this thread is honestly quite scary. i don't like seeing just... pure hate, from people i would like to be allies with. it reminds me of the hate right-wingers have tbh