We can tell the difference between someone struggling to be polite and someone being malicious.
We know when we don't pass. We are hyper conscious of it. We are not going to jump on you for honest mistakes. We definitely do not want to make our gender your problem.
Personally, I don't care what you believe in your heart, or even what you say behind my back. If you are polite to my face, I'm cool. We can be cool. That's all I ask. If you are not, I will remove myself from the situation.
I cannot fathom the courage of Sarah McBride. She is incredible to endure this shit every day.