Second cross-posting this on hexbear, particularly https://hexbear.net/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns. They have a MUCH larger and more active trans community there and I'm sure they'd be able to offer you advice.
I think right now federation may still be down? Not sure but it's worth a try. :(
Try this link and see if you can cross-post or interact via it maybe: !traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net (Oof, looks like it's not working, only old cached content :( )