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What's the hardest thing you had to come to terms with? (lemmy.ml)
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For me it was the fact that I would always be slower than everyone else and I would have to put in twice the effort.

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[–] 24 points 2 years ago (4 children)

  1. People die unexpectedly. Tell anyone and everyone that you love verbally that you love them (even if it’s man to man). Don’t leave anyone guessing as to how you felt about them.

  2. Not everyone is a friend for life, even if you’ve been friends for 5/10/20/40/80 years.

  3. People change and you can’t control that.

  4. Recording the people you love speaking; preferably while you ask them about their lives. See #1

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  • [–] 9 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    Would really suck to be betrayed after eighty years of friendship.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Yes.

    Not on that level but I’ve lost a friend because we were both a little stubborn. I’ll be the first to admit I didn’t handle the situation well (granted, we were all drunk).

    But, that friend also needs to acknowledge that they too did not handle what happened in the best way and not double down by threatening to sue other friends that were at the event for a orior year’s issue.

    It’s a giant mess. The last thing I told them ~2.6 years ago was that this didn’t have to be a friendship ending event. And here we are; haven’t spoken since then. Some days I miss them and other days I wonder if I’m better off without them and the energy they bring.

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