edit: Sorry, it seems like I completely misread your message. Yeah that's pretty damning if true.
Original message below.
When I was looking into it, and if I recall correctly, one of such occasions involved telling someone to, if they were going to throw their life away, they might as do something meaningful in their death. Not entirely sure what it was. Still big yikes, but that changed context reads slightly differently. And I could see how someone neurodivergent could say that not having ill intent. This was also something that drag apologized for. (And everyone makes mistakes and learns.)
The other occasions / accusation I don't know anything about. But I would employ people to not just believe everything they see said about people, and for others to be ready to back up their claim with sources, such that we don't have to live in uncertainty about what someone has or hasn't done. And usually, if someone hasn't been banned, then I trust moderation when they come to the conclusion that a ban wasn't warranted.