I've read and joined a couple of discussions about this and in one of them, it turned out the people complaining about this ""pronoun issue"" were just bigots under the hood. I hope you're not one of them.

In the end, Blåhaj Lemmy's rules are to respect pronouns, no exceptions. You're posting in a Blåhaj community thread. This is just to inform you that if you want to continue to not be potentially banned instance-wide, you might want to not go through with your "threat" of not using someone's preferred pronouns.

Replace drag with a lesbian trans woman and suddenly the same argument of "not wanting to consent to playing into someone's kink" becomes INCREDIBLY problematic. This is of course not what you're doing. But in the end, it doesn't matter what someone identifies with or what their supposed kink is because of their choice of name. Judge what they're saying and doing, not who they are.