you should always escalate every conflict to the maximum in order to dissuade hypothetical agents from blackmailing you.
Ah not understanding the escalation ladder (or knowing it exists, and just going all in every time because they don't get it) a common issue, slightly more common among younger nerds it seems (Made worse by Enders Game), but also fascists (somebody shared a story on bsky where they had violently (fists etc) gotten rid of some fascists at an event, who later returned to do a drive by shooting).