Not everyone is a good person.

This is absolutely the way to look at that level of intimacy IMO because that's how I view it.

The day my dad died, nearly 23 years ago now, was also the day that I knew I'd ask my wife to marry me.

It was a long illness and he was relatively young. We were living together and I had just sucked it up for 18 painful months. Never cried once.

Anyway the day came and I got home and just cracked when we went to bed. I just sobbed in the bed with her. Like a real, deep, deep sobbing.

She just held me and rubbed my hair and I will never, ever forget that.

Anyway about 8 months later I asked her to marry me and we're married over 20 years now and have a beautiful family together. I love her so much.

And my wife is exactly like you. But just sayin', in my experience, most women are not.

And I get it! No woman craves a weak man. No woman says to herself, "I wish my man was a sobbing pile of goo!"

Women want a strong man, a man that protects her from the slings and arrows of life. We can be those men and still cry. But it ain't easy.