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Feelings? Nah (slrpnk.net)
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[–] 93 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Wore nail polish at work this week, because I’m a bloke in his 40s who works in an office so fuck it, why not.

Our HR manager - a man in his 50s who fairly recently sent out an email reminding us to talk about our feelings to help our mental health - asked me (half jokingly) if I was “going through some life changes”

I will be when I find a better company to work for.

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  • [–] 102 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    To be fair, that could have been a genuine attempt to reach out to you. Coming in with painted nails when they've never seen you present yourself that way could be interpreted as you going through some life changes, and maybe you want to talk about them given an opportunity?

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  • [–] 31 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    But also HR is never your friend. If he opens up it’s just a document in a file and if he gets fired it’s ammunition on why he wasn’t performing up to spec based on “life changes.”

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago

    Nah, he knows me well enough to know what I’m about. And ultimately he doesn’t really care whether I do it or not, but he’s an ex-army man of a certain age, and me wearing nail polish doesn’t jive with his view of what’s ’normal’.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Dude, be kinder and don't start fights.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child)

    No offense taken. Trying to bring some sanity is all. I still haven't received an honest answer to the question, so i guess it struck a bit to close to home.

    Pretty hilarious that you try to paint me as sensitive, when you're the one getting upset on someone else behalf. 🙃

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    I'll once again give you the benefit of the doubt: the entire first paragraph was me deliberately mirroring you as well as I could in an attempt to make it clear why you're getting downvoted to hell. Apparently you're immune.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago

    Did you though? You called me an asshole for asking a pretty non-judgemental, open ended question about the headspace of the person in question. I wrote nothing in there that i wouldn't say to their face if they said what they said in the comment. You talk to me in a demeaning manor, which i didn't do.

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