I'm learning to hate people more but in general the thing that earnestly held me back was just using empathy - even if i am objectively in the right I can still see how people get to a decision or behavior usually, and it always regulated me to remind myself i'm just another dipshit with stuff going on that someone is gonna see and absolutely fucking hate, and thereby hate me.

I just try to give the benefit of the doubt that I'd want. I don't have people's story. I don't know how they got to whatever they're doing, or why.

But also this never covered all use cases and sometimes it's just better to hate. I dunno man it feels like it degrades me to lean into it though, i kinda hate hate