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things are in fact going extremely badly but we'll see if they pick up starting tomorrow night for reasons that will preclude me being here for about a week (seeing my SO)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear that bud. I recently stopped talking to my best friend and our friend group after their response to my wife's pregnancy and miscarriage. Basically made us feel like a burden while she was pregnant, and with two exceptions, the other 10 people said nothing after the miscarriage.

Sucks to cut contact after 15 years, but he still did nothing after I talked to him about this. Ultimately, I think it was for the best, but it still blows when your supposed support system fails you.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm so sorry you all had to go through that. I hope you and your wife are doing well.

I had to stop talking to him because he SA'd two (maybe three) of my female friends and he attempted to do the same to my girlfriend. It was on my birthday and I invited all of my friends to drink, play board games, and just chill out.

I feel bad that such a bad thing happened to my friends at my party, and I regret not noticing he was like that earlier. Looking back, he had some red flags but I didn't know he was capable of something like that. Maybe I was just being naive.

Ultimately, I think it was for the best, but it still blows when your supposed support system fails you.

I really agree with that. Thank you for your response

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Thank you, doing better with time.

That's fucked man. I wouldn't blame yourself for trusting someone not to be a piece of shit. I'm glad you acted when you found out, and hopefully he faces consequence for his actions