Idk about online struggle sessions but my irl family sometimes says Hispano, sometimes says Latino, but normally uses a more specific word. Like the country/region/state a person is from or their ethnicity. Ex: Portorriqueño, Venezolano, Sudamericano, Caribe, Oaxaqueño, Náhuatl, güero
And they use standard Spanish gender rules for those words (do neutral versions even exist? shout out to the güerxs out there)
Latino/a/e/x/@ is a strange term because to a certain extent, it's used to group millions into 1 category for the people who can't tell us apart. I'm pretty sure that in my area, corporations use it more than the people it's meant to represent.