Unhinged. You've found the perfect word for it. They come off to me like what happens in study hall when the instructor has to leave.

granted, the response I got was "we don't even think about you" so maybe kbin is too small to really be noticeable to them lol.

Goodness, my pride, lmao. I think I'm quite content not to be such a giant enough instance I get thought of. Hundreds of comfier, smaller places over Reddit Deux any day. I agree, the people here seem on the whole cognizant enough to keep themselves in check, rather than...whatever reddit was. That would be one behavior I am thrilled to see die, and hopefully federating with more chaotic instances won't kick it up again. I'm concerned it may.