This happens to me when I rarely open up Facebook. I'd see someone I was obsessing over in the 10s, and now I just wonder what I was ever feeling with them. It's not like something happened and they're massively different, they're more or less the same. Really the world changed a lot and I'm not the I used to be.

I'm not dating anyone new now. But if I had to judge someone as hot, they would have many of the following characteristics:

• left of some soft (Marxist, Anarchist, hell I'll date a decent socdem)
• mask wearing
• vegan
• high empathy, worry about the suffering of others
• reader
• actively organising something in their community

To be honest, I had a pretty basic taste in dates back in the day. If anything, this should be a self-crit.