I usually ask how folks prefer to hear the community referenced to avoid those fight or flight responses. Het with some flex, if they get to know me that well, doesn't mean I'm part of the community as they define it - some people have wider or narrower definitions and qualifiers than others and I'm fine with that - but either way, my comfort doesn't mean others share that feeling and it's on me to be conscientious and kind.
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