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Therapy (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 years ago by to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 3 points 2 years ago (4 children)

I’m a man. I’ve been to therapy. I went back to university and got my degree in my 30’s. Now I’m happy with who I am as a person. My hobbies are gardening, coffee, video games, and electronics. I volunteer as a tutor twice a week helping high school kids with their home work. Are you saying I should give all that stuff up and go back to therapy?

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  • [+] -6 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    ... You went to therapy. This isn't about you.

    But if you're this defensive about a meme? Lol yeah probably bud.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I’m not defensive about a meme. I’m challenging the assertion that everyone needs therapy. Therapy is what you need when you don’t know how to make yourself happy. If you don’t have a problem with that then you don’t need therapy. Telling people they need therapy when you don’t know anything about them is what offends me.

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  • [+] -6 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    This is a generalized meme. It's not really about anyone in particular. But tell me why this really engaged you and makes you feel like you need to challenge it. Perhaps you feel it fits closer than you'd like to believe? Does it remind you of something your parents said?

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    Not at all. I just resent the implication that someone having a hobby needs therapy and that this has anything to do with gender at all.

    There’s also the connotation that this is somehow not the “right” hobby to have, and that’s also couched in offensive gender-laden language. That is simply uncalled for. It doesn’t matter what your gender is nor what hobby you enjoy nor any combination of gender and hobby thereof. Do what you love and anyone who tells you to stop can take a long walk off a short pier.

    In therapy I learned all about mindfulness. About living in the moment and really paying attention to what I’m doing and really enjoying the activities I’m participating in. Lots of people figure that stuff out on their own, without therapy. I believe that if you figure that out and it makes you happy then you probably don’t need therapy.

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