I loved We Are Bob, I listened via audiobooks.

I'm on book 3, and I am also loving the audiobooks!

To add to this, coconut oil can make some people's hair more brittle instead, iirc it's because of the lauric acid. I would recommend clarifying to get the oil out and then lots of conditioner. I have curly hair and find MCT oil better (fractionated coconut oil with no lauric acid, primarily caprylic acid and capric acid) to protect hair. I also like jojoba oil to seal it all in. Coconut oil also makes me break out so I use squalane oil. It's a hit or miss trial and we are very much blindfolded!

I am calm and not upset (as ironic as it is to say: I can disagree without big emotions involved). I am not lecturing you, just providing you with actual experiences that are different from yours since I am a bi cis woman familiar with toxic masculinity (the lies you were told). I think you assumed a lot here but I did not mean to come off as upset, angry, lecturing a small child, etc. I would appreciate if you also read my words in a more neutral head space. While we may talk about our relationships when we hang out, we do not obsess over sex like you said and do talk about other things. It's disheartening that you have reduced women and 'girls night' to penises, sex, and exes. These are my actual opinions and life experiences but if you think it's all regurgitated social media that fatigues you then maybe you should listen more to us instead of shutting us out is all I'm saying at this point. You mention being gender fluid so maybe you could hang out in more feminist spaces, there's some on lemmy even and the trans spaces have been very welcoming. We're all just trying to be more kind in this cruel world.

Reading what is wrong and then reading what is also wrong in the parentheses was confusing.

Women aren't insanely more obsessed with sex and boobs. That should be a given since people are diverse and I can think of several reasons why a woman would be or not be interested in either. I would scratch that.

People should be able to wear clothing without feeling oogled and getting harassed. All genders can get harassed when they should not be.

The system is held up by companies that want to sell you things, you even mention capitalists later on but blame the whole beauty industry on women.

I would not bring up biology, women can be trans or cis just like men can be, even nonbinary. Just not a good point.

These points stood out to me since they were your early ones and I thought I was about to read a misogynistic rant. Toxic masculinity really does a number on the genders across the spectrum.

Search for free media heck yeah.

These are all android apps I get from fdroid:

I use drip for menstrual cycles (wish it had more options) https://f-droid.org/packages/com.drip

Pain diary pfa for a pain diary (wish it had more zones/areas) https://f-droid.org/packages/org.secuso.privacyfriendlypaindiary

Waistline for calorie counting/food diary, weight tracking (wish adding food was not manual) https://f-droid.org/packages/com.waist.line

Medilog can do a lot of tracking like fluid intake, weight, glucose, blood pressure, temperature, oximeter, and simple mood. https://apt.izzysoft.de/packages/com.zell_mbc.medilog

Gagdetbridge kinda tracks sleep but I get what you mean, I wish I could rate my sleep

There's more apps on fdroid if you search for "health" that I haven't tried yet like harp seems interesting so I just downloaded it https://f-droid.org/packages/xyz.lepisma.harp

I'm sorry you ran into assholes.

Edit: yeah you can tag this one as an antivegan debate pervert and move on.

That's exactly what I thought when I read this. We have multiple antivegan accounts on my instance that spout this crap and troll others. If they get banned, they come crying back instead of realizing how unwelcome they are. What a waste of time to spend it this way instead of actually helping people. You can't talk about veganism on here without the same type of asshole coming out of the woodworks.

What's the source or artist's website? They make such cute couple comics.

The anti-porn group (CS) has had experience petitioning for things like this before. They usually petition the store (steam or itch) but were told to pound sand instead, so they went to payment processors. Keep in mind, Patreon has had a similar problem with nsfw work in general because of payment processors. These companies are ok with censoring adult work, iirc there was a provision for it. CS posted their letter on their website that they sent. Patreon blamed it on KOSA and project 2025.

https://www.patreon.com/outsiderartisan/posts/some-final-on-135199925

https://outrungaming.com/mastercard-addresses-nsfw-game-censorship-statement/

Payment processors got petitioned (from an anti-porn group) to ban games with rape, incest, and sexual violence*, and it went from there. Steam and itch couldn't tell which games had the suspected content in them iirc, steam delisted in batches while itch had to manually review everything. Public perception played a factor in why the payment processors acted the way they did. Then you had the backlash to the treats being taken away, even gog gave away some nsfw games (but none of them had rape, incest, or sexual violence so weren't being currently boycotted). Now it's harder to get a nsfw game approved on steam. Also this anti-porn group has gotten other games like rape simulators (No Mercy) delisted before. So they had experience.

*I should have also noted that CP was a part of it. I did not see that on steam but the other stuff was 100% in steam's library.