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[–] 178 points 3 years ago (10 children)

You're gifted enough to cruise through the first few stages of your education without trying, so you forge an identity as "the smart kid" but never build up skills in learning or studying, so when you finally get to a level where your natural intelligence can't carry you anymore you can't keep up with the people who did learn those skills and you start to fail and lose your identity as the smart kid which causes you to break down because that'd how you defined yourself for so long..... or so I've heard.

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  • [–] 38 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    That's the cost of designing education for the worst students.

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  • [–] 22 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (4 children)

    This is actually the reason. Because there is no such thing as "natural intelligence". Not more than there is "natural strength". There are natural predispositions, yes, but what you get is function of what training effort you put in. Whether you realise, and/or like, putting effort into training your intelligence, is is another thing. So people who are "above average" were in a favorable environment that fostered their development without it feeling forced, or unnatural. And then, when the environment was replaced by the school's, it sadly didn't foster personal development anymore. I would argue we would need to redesign education, now that we have internet. We don't have to design courses around physical limits.

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  • [–] 16 points 3 years ago

    Because there is no such thing as "natural intelligence".

    Weell, some children have it easier to comprehend stuff on the logical/abstract level than others. Which feeds their curiousity. Which trains their intelligence...

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  • [–] 26 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    I feel like you watched me grow up. For a long time I was smart enough to pick things up naturally, I was even offered to skip grades.

    Then the math got complicated and I didn't know how to learn it. I went from being the smart kid to being the stupid one in remedial math. Being smart was all I had at that point, so when I "lost" that, I lost everything in my eyes. I was stupid and I was never going to be anything because of it.

    I ended up getting my GED as an adult and I now have a promising career in insurance- so I didn't really lose everything, but when I was 15 it sure felt like I had.

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    [–] 155 points 3 years ago (7 children)

    I am good with knowing my deficiencies. What sucks is being told that they are my fault because I should be "smart enough to overcome them".

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    [–] 93 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    The guilt that "you could have done more with your life", despite being a successful engineer with a happy family.

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  • [–] 52 points 3 years ago* (2 children)

    "Gurtaj is a principle software engineer at Google you know! You used to be the same grade in school. What happened?"

    "Dad, I'm running a multimillion dollar startup right now"

    "Tsk tsk"

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  • [–] 29 points 3 years ago

    "with all that million dollar you still can't be a doctor, did you know your nephew could play violins blindfolded while performing a surgery when he was still 3 years old. What a disappointment"

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    [–] 71 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    There's that joke about wearing regular clothes on Halloween to go as the "gifted kid", and when people ask what you're supposed to be you sigh and say you were supposed to be a lot of things.

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  • [–] 63 points 3 years ago* (10 children)

    Let's be honest, most of us think we're in the blue zone, when we are probably in the red zone

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  • [–] 15 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    I had to do an official test along with a psychological examination for reasons when I was almost 18 years old, so I know at some point I was in the blue zone or above, but it doesn't really fucking matter when you have autism, a mood disorder and have been neglected by your parents so you never learned things like determination or frustration tolerance. I think I shaved a solid 10 IQ points off anyway from almost a decade of substance abuse issues, so now I'm just autistic and dysfunctional without the gifted part.

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    [–] 63 points 3 years ago (4 children)

    I'm in this picture and it makes me keenly aware of what I could accomplish if I didn't just coast by

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    [–] 44 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    I still suffer from this. Promising early start, intense self-confidence issues and depression by the end.

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  • [–] 21 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    The secret is we're all gifted and talented in our own ways. Our society is structured to benefit and work for a specific kind of gifted and talented. You got to an early start, and then when it was determined your talents weren't profitable, the problem was framed as you wasting them instead or the system failing you.

    Not to mention our current identification of gifted and talented is basically just "So you know how that one kid has ADHD and his lack of structure in their home life results in poor grades? Well we put them in the remedial class. There we will teach them coping and organization skills. Meanwhile, this other kid? They also have ADHD but we don't realize it because their grades are fantastic. Turns out their home life is stressful in a specific way that means they get good grades, but they don't really know why or what structure is helping them. I school we will put them in the gifted and talented class. There, they'll be in an unstructured environment where they can learn and explore at their own pace and OH NO NOW THEY'RE ANXIOUS AND UPSET BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE THEY WERE THRIVING IN THE STRUCTURE OF A REGULAR CLASSROOM"

    Our education system is not based on individual need and instead on assuming everyone is basically the same, just more or less advanced

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  • [–] 19 points 3 years ago* (1 child)

    Doubt is a sign of intelligence. Which can sometimes lead to confidence issues. Just try to keep things in perspective and not let doubt keep you from taking calculated risks. It's when we allow ourselves to become paralyzed that things regress. A lot of it is environment as well so there's no simple answer but I can assure you thet you're not alone.

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    [+] 43 points 3 years ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (4 children)
  • [–] 22 points 3 years ago* (3 children)

    "Gifted" programs royally screwed my education. I had huge gaps in my knowledge because they decided that being top percentile in reading/writing (and being the weird kid) meant I could just skip out on classes for special little weird classes or sit with higher grade classes. I just had ADHD btw and really liked to read. Anyway, I would LOVE to know wtf they thought they were doing moving a kid around that much in 3rd-5th. I suffered the hardest with math. I was missing bits and pieces, which is pretty gd important in math, and I'd still somehow get the answers right but talked to about my overly complicated or ✨creative✨ solutions lol. Even now I hide my work if I need to solve something because I'm probably doing it weird... Then later it was really fun finding out that I couldn't really live up to being "gifted". 0/10 being special made me less educated.

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    [–] 39 points 3 years ago* (5 children)

    This is funny, but even the most intelligent people are inflicted with this. Don't let it keep you down, we cannot be good at everything.

    Its been consistently self-reported by Harvard students. And another effect is present, too - excellence leads to being placed in competitive environments, where everyone else is just as excellent. And this can make brilliant people feel stupid.

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    [–] 37 points 3 years ago* (6 children)

    Did you know that 80% of people think they're above average intelligence?

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  • [–] 15 points 3 years ago*

    I think a good part of that is because 'average human' is not a good way to represent who we are individually. I'm probably above average at specific things but in many other respects I'm average or below or wherever I'm supposed to be. Maybe most people are above average even though on average most of us are average.

    Fully above average people IMO are like astronauts and stuff. We all live in the shadow of that former navy seal/doctor/astronaut who is like 45 or some crazy shit.

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    [–] 34 points 3 years ago

    There is no green region. It's blue all the way up.

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  • [–] 31 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Ah, I see the stereotype of everyone thinking of themselves as "lazy genius" is something we've carried over from Reddit. We're all above average intelligent and could really achieve something if we just bothered to work hard and apply ourselves!

    lol

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    [–] 27 points 3 years ago (8 children)

    I wish my iq was 20 higher or lower, idk just gimme out of the blue zone

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    [–] 26 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    I like the term “twice exceptional”. All of my biggest strengths are aspects of myself that come with tradeoffs. For 20 years straight, I was praised for the strengths and scolded for the tradeoffs. Motherfucker, you can’t enjoy how quickly I learn things I’m interested in and also treat me like I’m lazy when you expect me to sustain equal amounts of interest in 10 different things that bore me and I fail. You can’t enjoy all the art and tech I make and then get annoyed when it’s difficult to break me out of a hyperfixation.

    I firmly believe that the tortured artist stereotype is bullshit. There’s nothing about being an artist that requires you to be miserable. But we sure do treat people like shit when their brains work differently.

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  • [–] [S] 15 points 3 years ago

    The later half is so true, early on when you’re a statistical anomaly you can get special treatment, but once you become a small problem or the skill backfires they blow up as if it couldn’t have been seen coming. They expect 100% efficiency like you’re a battery to sap and don’t care how it affects you mentally.

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  • [–] 26 points 3 years ago (11 children)

    Being gifted only refers to intelligence most of the time. But intelligence alone won't make a person excel at their field. You can be among the most intelligent people but still stay in the blue zone.

    I think excellence comes to be when intelligence meets motivation, purpose, creativity, social skills or other factors.

    And when it comes to the blue zone resilience would be a key factor. If one is intelligent of course you realize your faults quicker as well. However it takes resilience to keep going in the face of your own doubt.

    That's why in the real world people who are very convinced of themselves and their own ideas will get far even if not gifted at all.

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    [–] 22 points 3 years ago (5 children)

    The creator of this comic is a self-described pro-sweatshop neoliberal, which explains the "woe is me, I'm too smart for my own good" delusions.

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  • [–] 18 points 3 years ago

    Sure, because something so egregious would definitely show up in a Google search for "Zach Weinersmith sweatshop", right?

    Unless...you're exaggerating on the Internet to stir up outrage?

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    [–] 22 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Fun fact about being in that green region: Don't! It's like being in the blue region, but green!

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    [–] 19 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    I don't mind being aware of everything, but I do mind that nobody else is

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    [–] 18 points 3 years ago*

    Getting mature early is a curse

    Cuz you are left with a wee little tolerance for biased thoughts and advices

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  • [–] 18 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    Who wants to bet that most commenters will place themselves in the blue zone?

    Thankfully I can look down on everyone as I’m firmly at the top of that curve.

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    [–] 17 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Awareness of your own weaknesses is the first step to make them your strengths.

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  • [–] 13 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    I think I pretty quickly came to the conclusion that I was effectively being punished for understanding the normal material more easily than my classmates, and I didn't get why my "gifted and talented" work was necessary, since it was, to me, bonus material, and not even interesting bonus material.

    A core memory of mine is after showing up one time without an assignment done, my teacher decided to go around the room asking what everyone wanted to be when they grew up. All my G&T classmates said standard kid answers like doctor, lawyer, firefighter, whatever. Not being a smartass, I gave the genuine answer that, because I really liked Taco Bell, and there was a taco bell in walking distance, I'd be happy to work there and get some free Taco Bell.

    Teacher called my parents.

    How the fuck was I supposed to know giving a real, and in hindsight significantly more attainable answer was unacceptable? We were in elementary school, so why the hell would I know at that point that basic food service is basically non-viable in America?

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