I didn’t think you did, you’re good!

I think it’s just a hard social interaction, where a person knows that this is generally helpful to the problem, they want to help, but they can’t really be helpful unless they know the person incredibly well. They don’t want to say nothing, and what they should actually do (agree that the situation sucks, ask the person how they can help, be nonjudgmental when listening, and be willing to sit with them, help them with chores, or call them on a random Tuesday for coffee), feels like both too much and too little.

It’s the same problem when someone is going through a breakup or otherwise grieving, but for some reason, depression, chronic illness, and large weight loss, which are less commonly experienced and more personalized, attract a lot of this type of advice. A friend of mine at one point gained about 30 kilos while on chemotherapy for bone cancer, which is nuts, and she was working with several doctors on that, along with every other aspect of her life. Still, she was constantly given unprompted advice about how to incorporate lean meats and leafy greens into her diet. It might be generally good weight loss advice, but she only had 30% of her jawbone left.

I am lucky to live in a house with a yard (where I've had to water garden plants daily) and near a trail (I've ridden 130+ miles on my weak-but-geared ebike, mostly shorter trips though) but there isn't much for me to do around that I'm aware of, especially viable without a car and without spending money.

So that's why I think external factors are a bigger part. I even did go on a more-than-an-hour trip and it didn't magically 'click'. Though I had to recover for a few days afterwards (and weather, including heat/sun is a common thing stopping me, also places that aren't open in the afternoon). Also that and even shorter grocery trips I feel shorted (both for what I did and did not buy) due to high prices.

Though it's hard measuring status especially longer-term with added complexity. It's entirely possible not doing the things would make things feel even worse, but there's no reliable way to actually tell.