In my example it could just be not beating myself up over something I failed at, it’s not really something to praise it’s just something you’re supposed to do.
Why isn't people doing what they're supposed to do worthy of praise? Can you tell me about what things are worthy of praise? Have you dissected where the distinction lies between what is worthy of praise and what's "just something you're supposed to do"?
I read the above aloud to myself and I recognize it could potentially sound accusatory or disagreeable. I am not trying to change your mind here but I am curious about the underlying though process.