Well I'm a cis male also, and very openly gay (though I still don't really think that word describes anything about me other than sexual preference). It's great that you are secure enough to be able to enjoy the possibilities of wearing anything you want, including ear rings or ear piercings or nail polish.

And yeah, I mean I'm open about being gay but I don't own a rainbow flag or a teddy bear, and my favorite film isnt' "The Wizard of oz." (How'd that even get associated with us is something I'm still baffled about). Yet people can sometimes tell I'm gay, and some are cool with it while others suddenly seem like I insulted their mom and never talk to me again. Good for me!

You're right that we should at least try to be inclusive when we talk with each other. Insults and put downs just shut people down and keep them from having open honest communication.

Your paragraph makes perfect sense to me. I will say that I do sometimes find it very confusing what to say to say in gender-neutral situations. It's hard because I'm an English major and very old-school, so when someone says "they" to mean "her or him," it sort of feels like a road bump I overlooked but not on purpose.

if that makes sense. Language is alive and active and it should be inclusive also wherever possible. That also means not hating on people like me who sometimes still use pronouns in an old-school kind of way.