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What’s the biggest thing missing from your sex life? (lemmynsfw.com)
submitted 3 years ago by to c/sex@lemmynsfw.com
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cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/269418

I get the sense that many people (including me) would answer “frequency” or maybe it’s “variety”. What is it for you? How could your needs be better satisfied?

It would be really cool to give people suggestions too, if you have any good ideas to help.

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[–] 4 points 3 years ago (1 child)

@bwilberforce For a long time it was the spiritual dimension - coitus actually being a representation of cosmic Oneness, not just a pleasant experience or a form of bonding in a relationship.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 years ago (1 child)

    If I understand correctly, this was in the past, correct? Did something change for the better? If so, what helped?

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    @bwilberforce Meeting the right person. I was puzzled at first because I couldn't interpret what was happening. All I had to do was direct my attention towards them and I felt such expansion, integrity and homogeneity. It was like instant merging without us even touching. I'll be sharing the whole mystery over on universeodon.com in the next few months to see if anyone can relate. (I'm new to the Fediverse.) Maybe that's not the kind of thing you're into, though. Bit woo-woo! 😂

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Having a good match for you is certainly important! As is being other-centric. Glad you found what you were looking for.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    @bwilberforce Other-centric is the word! I believe we can only really find our own centre/core/heart by finding it in the other, by finding that we are congruent in our entirety because our innermost selves are identical. That, to me, is the essence of sex. Real mutual penetration! 🙂

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 years ago (1 child)

    I like it! I didn’t expect this conversation to get quite so metaphysical, but I like it.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    @bwilberforce Haha, yeah, I don't mean to hijack it! And I do appreciate and celebrate the 'profane' side of things (and usually avoid calling it that 😂).

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