I do try to be

I already owned the domain and have access to a server with more than enough resources, so it didn't have a downside to me.

Upside, I don't really have to worry about anyone else's federation choices. Undesirable content like loli/shouta stuff doesn't appear at all, because I'm basically the only user and don't subscribe to anywhere that exists so it doesn't federate to me anyway. My instance never lags because nobody but me uses it. Sometimes it misses comments through federation from overloaded instances, but it seems like the newer version of Lemmy has helped that greatly.

For me, yes. My instance is considerably faster and has better uptime than any of the instances I have created accounts on. Mostly because I'm the only one using it.

Honestly, not really.. But, it does put you in control over your destiny.

Not really, it's like hosting your own email server. Sounds great in theory and is a fun project but at the end of the day all you get is a vanity URL and a headache.