Referencing your edit: I don't think it's a widely used term tbh and if it is I'm willing to bet it means something far different. I was specifically just using the post title lmao.

Fair enough and sometimes that's just life. I mostly commented that because of your "just the tip" comment because to me that speaks at least to a certain level of willingness but maybe a lack of preparation in the end. For someone who's inexperienced it takes a LOT of warm up, like on the order of hours, to ensure it's a pleasurable experience because in the end you need to be relaxed for it to feel good which can be tough if the sensations are new and you're in pain.