Do you have a nickname or a preferred name? I do and Im a cis man. My nickname is a less common nickname of my full name. If you call me by the more common nickname I usually do not respond because in 50 years that was always a different person's name and not mine.

If you know me for long enough and you keep calling me the wrong name I am going to think you are pretty rude because you should know my name if you know me.

It's the same way with pronouns. No rational person is going to jump down your throat for using the wrong pronoun the first time as you aren't aware of their preference, but when you have been told a few times it is rude.

I'm going to assume you're a cis man for this.

Let's say we work together. I insist that I don't care about gender and see no reason why I should. As such, I decide to refer to you as 'lady' or 'girl' over the course of our daily conversations.

Would that not bother you? You don't think that wouldn't eventually start having an effect on you? Being constantly misidentified, misgendered, or having a part of who you are be literally disregarded?

Tons of cases that you won't link to as always

Equating pedophilia with the sensibilities of a few reactionary women being harmed from simply seeing genetalia, when they can simply look the other way, is not the own you think it is.

Are trans people more likely to assault than the rest of the population? The fear you feel is implemented by societal norm and you are attempting to justify it which makes your standards way less than for changing your mind. What would change your mind on this is what you need to figure out. Then you ask yourself if that's a reasonable amount of skepticism. You can work through your bias and become a better and less hateful person. I believe in you.

More assaults take place against trans people than are made by trans people.

I don't want to see old man's balls in men's locker room either but the way to deal with that is to not stare at other's naked bodies.

Rachel Dolezal filed hate crime charges based on her false racial identity. That isn't harmless. It us a different situation because she does identify as white at times.

And you are incorrect about that. You are very uninformed on this issue based on your examples. It feels like you tried to come up with counterexamples but took no time to assess their validity.

You can't argue with human garbage! ;)