Oh my fucking god, this might be the most badass comeback to those shitty "it's gay" arguments I've heard in a long time 😂

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[–] 0 points 15 hours ago (1 child)

I think a big problem is just in language and preserving history. There's an idea of deadnaming and an implication you shouldn't use a trans person's pre-transition name, but it gets complicated when talking about pre-transition events, since the person was referred to (possibly posted under) their old name and was seen by the people at the same as the gender they identified as at the time, which can get really confusing and hard to keep consistent.

Could go so far as to argue it's revisionist to do so, though I don't really think so, but it might be running into some of the same problems in terms of preserving history. But it's mostly just hard to talk about correctly, respectfully and clearly.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 hours ago

    My mom had a hard time with this until I asked her if it hurt more to fuck me over or rewrite the name I went by as a child. It clicked and now she has no issues just replacing my identity completely when talking about my past.

    When everyone knows you by who you are now, revise history. Doing anything less will only confuse everyone and humiliate you for no reason.

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