Hi tanis!
how are you assuming i'm heteronormative
Yeah I laughed when I read that one, always fun seeing someone you know from a smaller community "out in the wild" 😝
Crazy that commenter couldn't be bothered to scroll through your post history even a little.
But yeah generally HOAs are pretty bad (although for townhomes/condos they're kinda necessary). I believe Last Week Tonight had a great segment on them. A lot of them have pretty shady part-corporate part-governmental authority in ways that just does not go well for the residents. (Often) They're basically for-profit government bodies.