If you are a man, you probably wont rape someone. However, if you were raped, it was almost certainly done by A man. You can blame the individual, for sure, but you can also blame the people who know these things about a rapist and continue to associate with them, or fail to teach their sons how to react, or fail to dissuade locker room talk that can lead to dangerous thoughts, or fail to sufficiently shame manosphere creators/followers.

Toxic masculinity is a male issue, and more importantly its everyone's issue. It takes a villiage and all that