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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ozzyaustin200 on 2023-07-20 20:00:04.

Throwaway. This is so stupid but she's upset with me and I want to know if she's being ridiculous.

My girlfriend 'Ellie' (17f) and I (18m) have been together for a year now. Yesterday was actually our anniversary and we went out to a nice dinner to celebrate. Ellie got me this personalized photo/scrap book thing that had a bunch of notes about stuff she loved about me and other really cute handwritten messages. I loved it, especially because I'm moving off to college soon and I won't get to see her every day anymore.

For a while, I was struggling with what to get her and figured that girls seem to like jewelry. I honestly just grabbed the first necklace I could find that seemed like it was a nice quality. It was a silver necklace with a heart charm and rhinestones. I won't say how much I spent on it but it was a pretty decent chunk of change.

When I gave it to Ellie, I immediately noticed that she wasn't excited. She kind of smiled halfheartedly and before I could put it on her, she had already put the box in her bag. It was bothering me that she didn't seem to appreciate my gift as much as I appreciated hers and I asked her about it earlier today. She wouldn't answer at first but after some wheedling, she just said "It's silver" and looked at me like I should understand the problem.

After I obviously did not realize what the issue was, Ellie (kind of angrily) explained that she wears gold jewelry. I guess thinking back on it I've never seen her wear silver but I really couldn't understand the issue. I told her that she was being dramatic and kind of ungrateful. Ellie said that she "expected a thoughtful gift, just this once" and then left.

I really am at a loss. I don't think I did anything wrong but she's normally not an unreasonable person. AITA?

Edit: Alright folks I get the picture. I should have put in more effort. Just bought flowers (she loves daisies) and I'm heading to her place to beg forgiveness. I'll return the necklace and get something else but I'm probably going to stay away from jewelry cause I clearly don't have an eye for it.