You're just talking past me. You are alleging that what I am saying is connected to reinforcing the logic of the cishet patriarchy and the stigmatizing of sexual orientations that I guess you say I at least implicitly find "icky," but you make no effort to connect what I said to this, you just described people with shitty positions that I do not have. You have not established a basis for my argument being a "transpositon".
Edit: I want to add that I generally think BDSM practices are generally exactly the opposite here of any problem I am mentioning, because they are intensely intersubjective and require attention to consent and the perspective of your partner. The opposite is true with the sort of robots we are talking about, where one is going to some truly extreme lengths to engineer solipsistic sex and/or sexual abuse. I don't know how relevant this is to the overall point, I just want to affirm a conceptual difference rather than leave it open-ended as I did.