I mentioned already in my response to your other comment that husbands are ALSO called to submit themselves to their wives. Jesus did more for women's rights than anyone else in history, as far as I am aware. There are so very exceedingly many valid criticisms of the Bible, but quoting the New Testament in particular does not seem to me to be one of them. In the context of its era, it was radically revolutionary.
I hadn't heard that from Desiring God. I presume he clearly demonstrated his own opinion as separate and distinct from anything actually stated in the actual, literal Bible? Your quotes here seem to say thus.
So, off the cuff mind you, my guess is that it's old and that this advice, which if it had been given 50 years ago may well have been true(-ish), as in most couples indeed may be happier to have kids than not? Even if only for a retirement plan, while those who adamantly do not want them will not herd such advice regardless, so a simplistic mantra offered to the simple-minded with the aim of helping them arrive at a conclusion that they would have reached themselves eventually, given sufficient time and energy and efforts? Yeah I'm okay with that, in that context.
Today would be a different story I think... so it seems a matter of an elderly pastor giving out of date advice, not keeping up with the times, but again - CRUCIALLY - making sure to distinguish that it was merely his own opinion. It's okay to have personal opinions, even incorrect ones?
And from my very first comment in this thread I have in no way defended child abuse, saying in fact rather the opposite. ThAt'S whAt ThIs CaPiTaLiZaTiOn StYlE mEaNs?