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Anger (thelemmy.club)
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[–] 11 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Exactly. Whether or not you feel justified in your anger and grief, it is maladaptive to hold onto them if it is preventing you from living your life. You can move past awful things, but you have to actually recognize the issue and want to change.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    It is no measure of health to be well adapted to profoundly sick society.

    At what point do we acknowledge that YOUR response is maladaptive for the human race as a whole because it has led us here? It has led us to this point. You people who decide that feeling calm and at ease is more important than dealing with dangerous people or situations.

    I am angry because these things are still present. I am angry because they are not being dealt with in any way. If you want me to "adapt" to my environment and learn to live with the evils that take place daily, to not be angry when I see mothers liquified by our bombs, to be calm when I see police drag a man out of a council meeting for clapping 3 times, you can get fucked.

    You can get absolutely fucked. I will remain BLOODTHRISTY AND CONSUMED BY RAGE until I can QUENCH MY FUCKING THIRST.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    It isn't about the external world though. You could live in an utopia, experience grief and loss, and be unable to feel happy or do the things you want to do for your whole life because of it.

    Regardless of the condition of the world, you would suffer. Suffering is an internal, mental state.

    I think it is best to try to reduce that suffering as an end in itself. But you could also think about it in terms of helping the suffering person achieve whatever it is that they want. No matter what it is they want to do, letting go of their attachment to their suffering will be beneficial. That includes changing the material conditions that caused the event in the first place. It is easier to do that if you aren't suffering.

    Also, that is not to say they just "forget" and move on. It is simply that their relationship to the event that caused the suffering has changed. You can accept that the event occurred and that you suffered, but not allow it to cause you further suffering. That's easier said than done, but it is possible if someone wants to attempt it.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    What happens when people let go of their suffering is that they let go of any real drive to do anything about it. I have known people that have suffered and through counseling have bettered their life. But the thing that caused their suffering? Unaffected. Unchanged. And if not forgotten, ignored or some small pittance of virtue signaling that they care about it. Our society is so unbelievably shit at solving problems. We only ever sweep them under the rug.

    Economic crash? Bailout

    People hit by cars while walking on the road because there is not sidewalk? They shouldn't walk on the road, idiots. Forgotten

    Wealth disparity? Ooh look! Another subscription to an app I use once a month.

    People don't even attribute the suffering to its actual cause most of the time.

    If we want to change things, you need the impetus of extreme emotion to really get shit done. If you have relieved yourself of the suffering, of the anger or grief or fear of something, how could you care about it? How could you possibly claim to care about it to the same degree?

    People only want to be comfortable. They don't want to make the world better, as long as they are comfortable in their own little heads.

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