I tried behaw first, but I only gave it 15 minutes of waiting before trying to find a new server and now I’m here.

I gave it a couple of weeks, never got an email about whether my account was approved or denied. It was as transparent as mud. I mentioned it on IRC, and someone said "Oh just keep trying different servers." Initially when I looked at the list a lot of them expressed that they were for people of leftist political leaning, for various countries specifically, LGBTQ+, POC. Joining a server was a complicated process of "What do I join? Will I be welcome there? What is their process? Why am I not seeing any answer?"

Then there's finding communities. You can list them, and for all instances, but then it's quite a massive list to sort through. Searching is hit or miss, and depends on knowing that you have to specifically try to search all instances. Community names aren't super easy to discern so you have to try various forms of your search terms. And trying to do the "reddit like" syntax of /c/ only works on your present server, so unless you know the exact name of the instance you want to try that community on to use the @<lemmy.instance> syntax, it won't work.