Being a good lead means knowing when someone's not going to cut it, and when to let them go to protect the rest of the team. My boss recently failed to do so, and 3 people got laid off as a result because the money spent on the rotten apple was used compensating for their lackluster output and could not be used to pay the good employees' salaries.
Additionally, it also means seeing through your colleagues' bullshit (blame deflection, deception) and reacting accordingly. And even when you see through the bullshit, you sometimes need to compromise and learn to tolerate it because the tradeoff is worthwile. Sometimes.
Thanks for judging my performance as a lead based on fuck all. Now, moving on the point at hand.
You're spot on when saying that LLMs are not human beings and don't have intentions. The truth is, I don't actually care. The tech is advertized as a replacement for human programmers, and I judge on its actions in that context.
Moving back to your point - you're right that it doesn't lie. It's an analogy. However, it gaslights like a pathological liar and does the things it's been specifically told to not do, and does so repeatedly. If a human acted similarly, it'd be gone without delay, even when omitting the quality issues it has which humans also have.