Not to be "um actually", but I owned a Nissan Leaf 1st gen over a decade ago, and the pain points you worry about weren't really pain points back then, and there was a loooooooooooot less EV infrastructure in place back then. Less reliable, too.

A couple of years ago I rented an EV with a friend who had zero experience with them. I explained everything, we had no evse at the hotel so needed to use public points, still was no issue at all. Each point we used was about 20% to capacity, they all had places to stretch, eat, etc at. No points were damaged or giving less than maximum output. It was extremely pleasant, and we used about $25 in fuel costs, vs $100+ for gasoline in a comparable vehicle.

I also didn't have an evse installed at home - I used the 110V, 'level 1' charger that plugs into an outlet for my Leaf. I drove a ton - 10k miles in 4 months, so 2.5x the national average. Even with heavy reliance on public points on a network that was in its infancy and prone to downtime, I still got by just fine.

And that was 12 years ago.