▲ 463 ▼ Trying to re-sell kindness? (thelemmy.club) submitted 2 months ago by VetOfTheSeas@discuss.online to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works 81 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] nieminen@lemmy.world 32 points 2 months ago (13 children) Don't be an ass. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 13 child comments replies: [–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (5 children) She's trying to resale a spur of the moment gift. She doesn't sound like someone who's got things together. Wouldn't the socially acceptable thing to do would be to decline the gift or accept the shoes and regift them / donate them? Idk the response, "let me get cash for those." isn't a great look. That's why the lady snatched them back. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 5 child comments replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 months ago (4 children) You ever read that Christmas story about the poor couple that sells things that are important to them to get something nice for the other? Now imagine selling a random gift to get money to use on commodities like food, rent, or utilities. We can't know what that person needed the money for. While overall I agree with the reaction of the poster, I can get off my high horse long enough to acknowledge we don't know the whole situation or the economic position of the family. Maybe she would buy smokes, maybe she'd pay rent. We don't know. As an anecdote from my childhood, we were poor. My parents often spent what little they had to get nice things for me and my sister. It came at a detriment to our home. We had much of what we wanted, but we lacked what we needed. As an adult now I would invest in the environment first. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago The story is O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi" It's a short one, if you haven't read it yet. permalink fedilink source parent [–] shneancy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 child) an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i'd first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i'd feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago It's either greed or desperation. We don't have the information to know which permalink fedilink source parent [–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago I'm not arguing the status of the recevier. I'm questioning someone who's response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn't hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back. permalink fedilink source parent [–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca -2 points 2 months ago (2 children) Eh, I’ve lived in plenty of poor neighborhoods. The lotto tickets basically coat the gas station parking lot like a paper mache. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ddplf@szmer.info 17 points 2 months ago* (1 child) Of course they do, they are designed to be that way - they are super cheap and sell you a chance for a better life. They are made to exploit people that are permanently stuck in poverty hell and hope is the only thing left. Once again, blaming the victims and not the oppressor. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 months ago When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way? I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me. permalink fedilink source parent [+] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works -10 points 2 months ago (3 children) He's not being an ass you are. He's being realistic to the situation. Just cause you don't like it doesn't mean you need to call people an ass. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [–] ddplf@szmer.info 15 points 2 months ago (2 children) POOR PEOPLE WOULDN'T BE POOR IF THEY WEREN'T STUPID, LAZY AND ALCOHOLIC, AMIRITE??? STUPID DUMB POOR PEOPLE permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 months ago (1 child) My parents were firmly middle class, divorced though. My mom would absolutely do something like this to be able to buy herself something nice instead. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] nieminen@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago That's a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (5 children) She's trying to resale a spur of the moment gift. She doesn't sound like someone who's got things together. Wouldn't the socially acceptable thing to do would be to decline the gift or accept the shoes and regift them / donate them? Idk the response, "let me get cash for those." isn't a great look. That's why the lady snatched them back. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 5 child comments replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 months ago (4 children) You ever read that Christmas story about the poor couple that sells things that are important to them to get something nice for the other? Now imagine selling a random gift to get money to use on commodities like food, rent, or utilities. We can't know what that person needed the money for. While overall I agree with the reaction of the poster, I can get off my high horse long enough to acknowledge we don't know the whole situation or the economic position of the family. Maybe she would buy smokes, maybe she'd pay rent. We don't know. As an anecdote from my childhood, we were poor. My parents often spent what little they had to get nice things for me and my sister. It came at a detriment to our home. We had much of what we wanted, but we lacked what we needed. As an adult now I would invest in the environment first. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago The story is O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi" It's a short one, if you haven't read it yet. permalink fedilink source parent [–] shneancy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 child) an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i'd first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i'd feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago It's either greed or desperation. We don't have the information to know which permalink fedilink source parent [–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago I'm not arguing the status of the recevier. I'm questioning someone who's response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn't hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 months ago (4 children) You ever read that Christmas story about the poor couple that sells things that are important to them to get something nice for the other? Now imagine selling a random gift to get money to use on commodities like food, rent, or utilities. We can't know what that person needed the money for. While overall I agree with the reaction of the poster, I can get off my high horse long enough to acknowledge we don't know the whole situation or the economic position of the family. Maybe she would buy smokes, maybe she'd pay rent. We don't know. As an anecdote from my childhood, we were poor. My parents often spent what little they had to get nice things for me and my sister. It came at a detriment to our home. We had much of what we wanted, but we lacked what we needed. As an adult now I would invest in the environment first. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago The story is O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi" It's a short one, if you haven't read it yet. permalink fedilink source parent [–] shneancy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 child) an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i'd first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i'd feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago It's either greed or desperation. We don't have the information to know which permalink fedilink source parent [–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago I'm not arguing the status of the recevier. I'm questioning someone who's response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn't hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago The story is O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi" It's a short one, if you haven't read it yet. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 child) an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i'd first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i'd feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago It's either greed or desperation. We don't have the information to know which permalink fedilink source parent
[–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago It's either greed or desperation. We don't have the information to know which permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago I'm not arguing the status of the recevier. I'm questioning someone who's response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn't hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca -2 points 2 months ago (2 children) Eh, I’ve lived in plenty of poor neighborhoods. The lotto tickets basically coat the gas station parking lot like a paper mache. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ddplf@szmer.info 17 points 2 months ago* (1 child) Of course they do, they are designed to be that way - they are super cheap and sell you a chance for a better life. They are made to exploit people that are permanently stuck in poverty hell and hope is the only thing left. Once again, blaming the victims and not the oppressor. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 months ago When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way? I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ddplf@szmer.info 17 points 2 months ago* (1 child) Of course they do, they are designed to be that way - they are super cheap and sell you a chance for a better life. They are made to exploit people that are permanently stuck in poverty hell and hope is the only thing left. Once again, blaming the victims and not the oppressor. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 months ago When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way? I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 months ago When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way? I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works -10 points 2 months ago (3 children) He's not being an ass you are. He's being realistic to the situation. Just cause you don't like it doesn't mean you need to call people an ass. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [–] ddplf@szmer.info 15 points 2 months ago (2 children) POOR PEOPLE WOULDN'T BE POOR IF THEY WEREN'T STUPID, LAZY AND ALCOHOLIC, AMIRITE??? STUPID DUMB POOR PEOPLE permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 months ago (1 child) My parents were firmly middle class, divorced though. My mom would absolutely do something like this to be able to buy herself something nice instead. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] nieminen@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago That's a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ddplf@szmer.info 15 points 2 months ago (2 children) POOR PEOPLE WOULDN'T BE POOR IF THEY WEREN'T STUPID, LAZY AND ALCOHOLIC, AMIRITE??? STUPID DUMB POOR PEOPLE permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 months ago (1 child) My parents were firmly middle class, divorced though. My mom would absolutely do something like this to be able to buy herself something nice instead. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] nieminen@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago That's a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 months ago (1 child) My parents were firmly middle class, divorced though. My mom would absolutely do something like this to be able to buy herself something nice instead. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] nieminen@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago That's a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nieminen@lemmy.world 1 point 2 months ago That's a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though. permalink fedilink source parent
