I strongly disagree with the argument that we should moderate our behaviour based on what the people who hate us might say about us.

Bigots and fascists don't need to be "given ammo". They just make up their ammo no matter what we do. They lie, all the time. It doesn't matter what we do or don't do, they will find a way to feel aggrieved. Changing our behaviour based on what they might say only allows them power and control over us. And it limits what we can do to actually help the marginalised people they target.

We need to be better about where we spend our efforts. We should focus on helping people, regardless of what bigots say. It's a bad habit of moderates, to spend all their time arguing and negotiating with bigots, rather than supporting the people bigots target.