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Absolute insanity (thelemmy.club)
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[–] 14 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I agree with you, but I'd say it's a 50/50 toss up with women. Half of them would agree with us. The other half are too busy planning a 300k wedding on a 15/hr salary. Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.

I know a lot of women who would be thrilled to be proposed to with a cat.

In the past, I've also known women who would be sour that they didn't get a ring. I try not to know that type of person for long.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.

    I have heard of them, "he hasn't proposed yet so I left him" kinda thing. That guy was probably happy with things and completely unaware she expected anything to change.

    I do find it odd that when I have looked at posts about it before the vast majority of weddings seem to be super expensive or super cheap. Very little in the middle. Like 3 digits going to a pub for food or 5+ getting fucking everything.

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  • [–] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    We were sort of in the middle? Wedding dress was a prom dress from Debenham's (70 quid), Edinburgh registry office, a few friends, 1 brother and the parentals. Afternoon tea at the Balmoral. Not cheap but not 5 figures either.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago

    Ohh that sounds like a nice idea. Much smaller event but something nice.

    Not sure how much of my family would go, they are spread across different corners of the UK. Meanwhile my partner's family is all packed into an area I can walk across.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago* (1 child)

    Honestly, propose to me with a new Akrapovic Slip-On exhaust for my Hornet 750 and a small ceremony near the water in the country with a moto camping trip as the honeymoon and I'd be in biker girl heaven.

    Could get away with the whole shebang for under $10k

    To be fair, that exhaust probably costs as much as most wedding rings anyway lol.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago

    Thinking that 50 percent of women are shallow gold diggers seems a bit high. There are plenty of men who have superficial feelings about how they want their wife to look, but it's nowhere near 50/50. Usually those gym bros and trophy wives pair up so they're not really hurting anyone normal with their expectations.

    Personally, I wear a silicone ring. So does my spouse. Our rings for our wedding were a hand me down and a band with a non diamond stone. That said, it's fair to want a ring. It's fair to want the tradition, and it's fair to be comforted by the idea that your partner has been thinking about asking you to merge lives for longer than just today. A ring used to mean more when women weren't allowed their own bank accounts (actually very recently, in the scheme of things), but it's still meaningful in a society where we're taught (incorrectly) that men value non commitment, and don't want to get "chained" to a "nagging wife."

    Funnily, it's guys who make comments like you (that it's a total toss up whether any woman has an ounce of substance to her or if she's a total bimbo who only cares about money) that make women afraid that men are not going to fully commit which is why things like a big unnecessary time commitment before the proposal seems romantic and reassuring

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