I don’t think the current facists in charge are doing it incrementally.

Yeah. Funny how incrementalism isn't the only way to accomplish things. But it's a great way to not accomplish them.

Slavery took a civil war but women’s rights, gay rights, minimum wage, social safety nets (granted not at the level they should be), etc. I’d argue there has been lots of progress.

There has been progress. And incrementalists love to take credit for it because they have none of their own. Women's rights took a constitutional amendment, you can't creep up on those incrementally. Roe v. Wade was a court case. Also not incremental. Minimum wage was instituted as part of the New Deal. FDR was not an incrementalist. Same with social safety nets. Those were part of the New Deal and Great Society plans, which again, were not incrementalist. But the Clinton-era welfare "reform" that surrendered to the racist "welfare queens" rhetoric of the Reagan era was incrementalist.

If anything, the last 10 years have shown that getting discouraged by imperfect progress and not voting (even for the lesser evil, who do sometimes surprise us) can lead to very quick backslides.

Then the party shouldn't have stymied progress and called it "incrementalism".

We’ve literally lost rights and baked in harder obstacles to progress by not choosing the lesser evil when that is the only realistic choice.

We lost those rights because the party thought second worst was good enough to win.