That's why I'm not an authoritarian, but an anarchist.
Anarchy is authoritarian, anarchists just don't know it. Leadership is hard and most people don't actually want to do it, even for themselves or their families. That's the entire reason so many people are attracted to fascism. Leaders will emerge in your anarchist paradise, and people will follow. Without liberalism as a check on their power, the very first crisis that comes along will turn anarchy directly into fascism.
For reference, I point to all the people in HOAs. People can't even live without some authority to tell them how high the hedges can get. LOL
Even to get to anarchy in the first place is going to require authoritarianism. You don't make massive societal transformations without forcing it on people. If I don't want to live in anarchy, how are you going to force me?