I'm talking to my sister earlier, and find out she's set up this entire mutual aid network in her neighborhood. I asked where she got the idea, or if she followed a guide -- nope. She just vibed out something that I've struggled to make happen for a decade. In like a few months! And she does this stuff all the time, her entire life! But if you ask how she does it she just shrugs. She doesn't even ask for help or think of it as some exceptional thing, she'll casually drop that she teaches courses on recognizing child abuse for three years without telling anyone.

This isn't like a condemnation or anything, like "oh, go read theory." Like, she did it solely off vibes! If anything I'm jealous. I'm also not saying this invalidates theory, just confused as to how on earth someone can just do this on a whim! And where I can learn to do it too!

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[–] 34 points 4 months ago (7 children)

Never had the pleasure of meeting anyone like that but it brings me some comfort that they exist

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  • [–] 30 points 4 months ago (6 children)

    you've met tons of people like that. they just don't brag about it because they don't see it as anything out of the ordinary. there's networks like this all over urban areas, and more are forming every week. most of the people who make up these networks have never read any theory, they just see a problem or three and they decide to fix it.

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    I mean if he doesn't have a lot of social skills he is also less likely to have met people with top level social skills than average...

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    They/Them but no worries I only just added it to my profile. I am well socialized but I unfortunately live in a unique area that lacks organized workers of any kind.

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