Yeah. Butcher's other books don't have the same misogyny issues so it's usually agreed upon that it's a Harry Dresden issue and not a Butcher issue...

It's also very hard to verify this Lara Raith stuff online (or at least I haven't managed to find anything about it).. almost as if it's not such an open secret.

That plus the fact that Murphy and the ex-wife look nothing alike and Murphy dies 4 books and 7 years after the divorce, in a series of books in which everyone knows the main character has never been allowed to be happy and keeps reminding himself that a villain once cursed him to die alone...

Then there's Molly who got shut down by Harry pretty hard and there's been no more tension since that one scene, so... Yeah, pretty meh stuff.