It is teaching your kids that you do not trust them, and it is indulging your own paranoia.

Only if you never lift the restrictions, and coddle instead of raise them.

A parent buying their kid their first beer is a show of trust, and confidence in having prepared them. That they weren't allowed before isn't some paranoia about turning them into an alcoholist. It's about preparation and maturity.

It is a display that shows that the parent feels their child is ready and responsible enough for the ability to decide themselves to be granted to them.

A parent enforcing a rule before that is not some violation.

Only, for the internet, the tools and know-how to do so are rare or non-existent.

My parents did this with tons of things as me and my siblings grew up. Each time trusting us with a new piece of responsibility, when they felt we were ready.

What kind of parent doesn't decide their childrens bedtime until they can sanely maintain their sleep schedule themselves?

It was a big day when I was granted the ability to go to visit friends without asking permission first.

Parental control and guidance is essential for the stage-by-stage raising of a child into adulthood. Both online and offline, only tools and practices around the former practically don't exist.

Each parent is also on a deadline. When someone turns 18, all rules come off whether you're ready or not.

As a parent, you should aim for your kid to be making as many decisions themselves as possible by then.

And did you seriously just try to use dismissing my trauma as a point, instead of a logical retort?