I don't think voting for the democrats means I agree with them, I think it means the bad parts are a trade-off I'm willing to make for the good parts. And right now it's not.

My non-vote can also make it a shade less likely the democrats will win without changing. If that makes it a shade more likely they'll change, great, because my vote for them wouldn't make it a shade more likely they'd win (again, living in a state where my vote doesn't count). What my vote does is rob them of an infinitesimal piece of legitimacy, and voting for them would grant them that infinitesimal piece of legitimacy. If you want to make a difference, it's not me you should be talking to, it's only folks in swing states you should be worried about. If my vote counted I might find your points more compelling. And before you say "well that's very nuanced and you shouldn't be telling people not to vote for democrats" I'm not saying that; it's you people calling us out! Saying we're bad people for not acquiescing to this trade off of "if you say yes to arming a genocide, maybe we can have a little less fascism at home."

As it is, I hope the democrats win, but importantly if they win without changing, I hope they win with the lowest turnout in history. I hope it's a near thing. I hope they're scared they'll lose again next time if they keep up this bullshit of chasing the republicans into more and more extreme right wing politics (hell, while we're hoping, I hope they start nationalizing the necessities of life and guillotining billionaires starting with the pedophiles).

Or else I hope grassroots organizing outside the party is integral to their success, and the democrats become beholden to organizations that represent the people. That'd be neat. Anyway, voting for the democrats works against those goals. The democrats winning in a landslide with a clear mandate to get back to "business as usual," where business as usual is rounding up immigrants and murdering Palestinians is still very bad.