If you want to tweak the appearance of a website via custom CSS (and optionally share it), there's the Firefox and Chrome extension Stylus.
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/styl-us/
https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/stylus/clngdbkpkpeebahjckkjfobafhncgmne
It's really intended for re-theming individual sites, though -- I don't think that it has a way to publish your CSS changes for lemmy.today's theme so that users of any other lemmy instance could automatically find them using Stylus, just manually import them. You could upload them somewhere
and it looks like some people have done so, as with this GitHub archive of Lemmy themes
but it doesn't natively provide a feature to "search for custom themes published for any Lemmy instance".