Personally, I think BG3 will fit very neatly into that feast/famine mode. I've been playing it since early beta when there was only the initial map, and I've come back to it for nearly every update for the new classes, races, options galore, and the meta is deeep (if that's of interest).

On top of that, the mod community is lively, so there's a non-zero chance that whatever you might find annoying can be easily resolved to your liking. (eg. dice rolling, etc.)

Lastly, it's been my experience that nearly every RPG-adjacent Di$cord server I'm on has at least a searchable conversation if not an outright channel for BG3 chatter. From local gaming shops to online RPG guilds to 3D-printing groups and such, there are millions of people that're totally game to hang out & bullshit and/or theorycraft on the topic. I've connected with more than one D&D campaign that way, so maybe give it a shot! 🫡