It is your choice, but if you stay you could put in some real EFFORT to make things better. e.g. people keep saying how difficult it is to make an account - and as a result now https://piefed.social/auth/instance_chooser exists. There is no hexbear or lemmy.ml on there, but even if theoretically there was one day, there's specifically an option for "Good for newbies": Newbie-friendly vs. choose your own adventure, to accommodate both desires, effectively making such controversial places as opt-in rather than having to opt-out, which requires first understanding and awareness of the details and ramifications of the decision.
Another problem is community discovery: yes entire communities are dedicated to helping with out, but how does one find out about those communities in the first place? They are not mentioned in any instance side-bar that I have seen, and rather most side-bar links to places are to expired or dead communities, e.g. Discuss.Online points to !new_here@discuss.online with 3-year-old pinned posts and the most recent post was 1 year ago, plus only one more from all of 2025. But in contrast, PieFed has a new user sign-up wizard that asks the user questions and subscribes them to communities based on their interests - memes, news, whatever - plus long after that aids greatly in community discovery, e.g. with Topics, Feeds (user-shareable and customizable), and combining comments across all cross-posts.
PieFed gives me hope for the Threadiverse.
In the meantime though, if you need something specific, then yeah you have to go to wherever it is located at. I haven't posted or even commented on Reddit, and made probably <5 votes in all of 2025, all to help promote either PieFed or Lemmy, but I do read it occasionally because that is the only place I know of where the discussions that I was looking for were taking place (other than Facebook or Xhitter that are 1000x worse). Call this defeat if you will, I call it strategic assessment of the current situation, even as we strongly push forward to make this a better place, i.e. realism.